Nothing can be more tragic for children (especially the younger ones) to watch their parents fight and their family fall apart. It is something they need to deal with, and parents should be part of the process of helping them adjust to their new family situation.
Put your children’s needs first
Communicate the nature of the situation to them clearly, and answer any questions they may have about living arrangements, financial support, custody, etc. Younger children may require a more simplistic explanation and lots of emotional support so this event doesn’t scar them for life.
Create a new relationship with your ex-spouse
Now that you’re no longer husband and wife, alter your perspective of your ex-spouse as your new “co-parent” and protectors of your children. Post-marital counseling in San Antonio would help both of you work out differences and agree on a parenting plan for the children.
Don’t use your children against each other
Divorce settlement shouldn’t be a game of tug-of-war with your children in the middle. They aren’t pawns in an agenda to get back at one another, and neither are they spoils of war. They should be left out of the conflict entirely.
Not from a broken home
Emphasize to the children that they don’t come from a broken home, but from two homes now. Both parents should make acceptable living arrangements for when the children come to visit, i.e. bedroom, living space, toys, etc. Children should feel at home and accepted at either household.
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